Last weekend I had to go out of the house to run some errands and while going through my list I realized that my cellphone was running out of battery. I quickly put it on charge to ensure it worked fine for as long as I was out of the house.
Cellphones are irreplaceable. Aren’t they?
Have you ever thought that we are also irreplaceable?
Do we check our “battery” every day?
Do we have enough “charge” to make the most out of our days?
Do we practice “self-empathy”?
Most of us are resistant towards self-compassion and there could be so many reasons for that. We are often scared of becoming debilitated and vulnerable.
Sometimes we keep self-compassion under layers to protect ourselves from getting hurt. This not only impacts us but also our near and dears ones around us.
Let’s cultivate self-empathy by following simple steps: SAFECAN
Self-aware – Be aware of your state (emotional, physical, mental, spiritual) and acknowledge it.
Accept – Our default state is to suppress negative emotions however let’s “express” ourselves. It’s alright to be in pain, get stressed and overwhelmed.
Forgive – It’s your “behavior” NOT you. Behaviors can be changed over a period of time. The art of forgiveness delivers exceptional results.
Encourage – Recognize your efforts and appreciate yourself for the things you have done so far. You have come this far because of YOU.
(Self-critique is good for as long as it pushes you to excel but not the other way around)
Control – Do not control things which you can’t do anything about and take charge(actions) for those which you can change.
Allow – Welcome and embrace challenges by finding meaning in them. Life without challenges is pointless. Let’s value those difficulties. It gives us an opportunity to learn, unlearn and grow.
Nudge – Develop attitude towards gratitude. It is a powerful tool to allow positive thoughts.
Please note that you aren’t in this alone. We all SUFFER and we all are IMPERFECT.
Let’s not be hard on ourselves.
#selfcompassion #selfempathy #selflove
Guest Author: Neelam Singh
Learning & Development Professional – KPMG
https://www.linkedin.com/in/neelam-singh2018/
